Thursday, November 27, 2008

my thankful thanksgiving

so i met sweetpea's new worker yesterday- and i must she SHE IS WONDERFUL.--how wonderful? --gave me her cell phone wonderful!----
seriously. she was kind and smart and asked all the right questions. and i don't think she is leaning towards passing Grama's homestudy. she agreed with me that it dosn't look good that grama will protect sweetpea from dad. we told we would be fine with a very open adoption with grama, so sweetpea could still have family ties.
finally some HOPE!
but of course we still have to wait...
lol

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

is adoption missional?

i found this article here:


Johnny Carr, National Director of Church Partnerships for Bethany Christian Services, wrote this piece. I think he nails it. Johnny also lives it; he and his wife have two adopted children who are both deaf.


Is Adoption Missional?

I guess the first thing is to define missional. “Missional” is one of those junk drawer buzzwords that has become common in our Christian vocabulary with several definitions floating around. Wikipedia says that “missional” is a missionary-term that describes a missionary lifestyle, and I guess that is as good a definition as any. To live “missionally” is to express the Gospel holistically in the way you live - every day and in every thing. It is a way of life, not a program. It
means living like Jesus lived. If you know much about Jesus you know that includes helping to meet the emotional, physical and spiritual needs of others. Living missionally means making a conscious decision to live each day with others in mind, rather than yourself.

In other words, YES - adoption is missional.

Recently, I was speaking with a lady who had asked her church for financial help for their adoption. The church leader responded that the church did not help with “optional” things like adoption. The pastor’s perspective seemingly saw adoption more like consumption than ministry. He saw adoption as a want - much like I want an iPhone. He was not viewing adoption from the perspective of the child.

When I meet with Pastors to discuss adoption ministries, I will often ask them, “Who does adoption help?” The typical response is “infertile couples.” That is when I lovingly explain that adoption primarily helps children. Whether the child is an orphan from war, genocide or disease in Africa; whether the child is an orphan due to abuse and neglect and the state has severed the rights of his/her birth parents, or whether it is a new born baby that was born due to an unplanned pregnancy - adoption is (or, at least, should be) always about the health and best interest of the child. Unfortunately, many Christians are focusing on s (us) rather than the child (them).

When adoption is seen through a child’s eyes, it is easy to see the missional nature of adoption. In fact, this may be the ultimate missional decision because adoption is a lifetime commitment. Many people today are adopting children with special needs. Some of these children will never grow up to be independent. The people who are adopting these little ones know that they are making a decision today that will affect the rest of their lives. Instead of raising a couple of healthy kids, sending them off to college, and then sailing off in their motor home into retirement, they will be serving the least of these until one of them “retires” into eternity. That is truly missional.

Someone once said missional living was “religion without all the junk added,” I thought that was interesting in light of James 1:27, “Religion that God our father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” (NIV)

There are many different perspectives on the best ways to care for orphans, but with 143,000,000 orphans in the world today, something must be done by followers of Jesus Christ. Only 1-2% of these children will be adopted. We need many strategies that will best fit the cultures, values, and
environments of the places where these orphans live, and adoption is a one great strategy.

Adoption is not the one-stop cure all for the orphan crisis, but it is a strategic and effective mode to care for the orphans of the world. It’s also a commitment of sacrifice, a holistic manifestation of the Gospel, a missional posture and a service to Christ.

Monday, November 24, 2008

responsible

"Once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows that we know, and holds us responsible to act" Proverbs 24:12

Sunday, November 23, 2008

one word

i have one word for all of you-

Serbia

Monday, November 17, 2008

just curious


anyone reading my blog , please tell me what you think.
i read a heated debate on one of my foster parent boards about the right/wrongness of asking for donations and/or fundraising by selling things for the purpose of international adoption. what are your thoughts? i never realized people would have such a veminant distaste for these practices. seems to me that if i couldn't/wouldn't adopt that at least i could help someone else adopt?? but people were saying things to the tune of if you can't afford to adopt you should be allowed to. but many we are talking from $15-40k. i would love to adopt internationally but it is a very hug hurdle.
so should you have to be rich to adopt?

Saturday, November 15, 2008

struck

i was quite struck yesterday by the bolded lyrics in this song yesterday-

Here I Am by Downhere:
Sometimes your calling, comes in dream
Sometimes in comes in the Spirit's breeze,
You reach for the deepest hope in me,
And call out for the things of eternity.

But I'm a man, of dust and stains,
You move in me, so I can say,

CHORUS:
Here I am, Lord send me,
All of my life, I make an offering,
Here I am, Lord send me,
Somehow my story, Is part of your plan,
Here I am

When setbacks and failures, and upset plans,
Test my faith and leave me with empty hands,
Are you not the closest when it's hardest to stand?
I know that you will finish what you began.


These broken parts you redeem,
Become the song, that I can sing

Here I am, Lord send me,
All of my life, I make an offering,
Here I am, Lord send me,
Somehow my story, Is part of your plan,
Here I am

Overwhelmed by the thought of my weakness,
And the fear that I'll fail you in the end,
In this mess, I'm just one of the pieces,
I can't put this together but you can.

Here I am, Lord send me,
I wanna live my life as an offering
Here I am, Lord send me,
Somehow my story, Is part of your plan,
Here I am

Here I am, my life an offering to you, to you
Somehow my story, Is part of your plan,
Here I am

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

funny funny video- large family twelve days of christmas

perspective, stay at home mom

perspective
i read this today and particularly loved this
"Get Perspective:

~Hold a sleeping in your arms, mouth agape and warm breath drifting, and stand before a map of this world. Which would you rather have? Paris, New York, Tokyo, London------or this flesh lying against yours, this one made in the image and likeness of the very Divine? This world is going to burn up, cinders for the universe….but your child is a soul without end, forever and ever existence. The world has pitifully, laughably little to offer in comparison to this holy opportunity to raise up a child."

i hope this blesses someone's day as much as it did mine!

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

pie day

my husband's work has pie day once a year. all the new guys/gals must make a pie. and all those who lost a bet must make a pie. my husband made up an interesting pie.
"Paparella Purple penrose pear pie"



Monday, November 10, 2008

visit with "granny"

well, we had our first "granny" visit today. i was able to sit in the room with her (and dad was there too for some reason) for part of the visit, which was great for sweetpea. she got to warm up to them= no screaming !
I also was able to bring up the subject of after the fact, ie if granny gets her can we have anything to do with her again? and to my shock she said she was FINE with me calling up and seeing her anytime! i thank God for his answer to my prayer that i would at least be able to know sweetpea is safe and be able to see her grow up. it dosn't take away the pain of losing her, but it does soften the blow.
she said we could even take her for a weekend if we wanted.
we have two more weeks to wait until the homestudy should be back. i am trying hard to really enjoy and take in the little time i have with my baby.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

i can make pizza!



we watched the twins overnight last night..whew am i tired!

Saturday, November 8, 2008

adoption encouragment

I'm only one. But still, I am one.
I cannot do everything, but still, I can do something.
And because I cannot do everything,
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.
-- Edward Everett Hale

Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them.
Have great dreams and dare to live them.
Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.
--- Norman Vincent Peale

Natural Child: Any child who is not artificial.
Real Parent: Any parent who is not imaginary.
Your Own Child: Any child who is not someone else's child.
Adopted Child: A natural child, with a real parent, who is all my own.
--- Rita Laws, PhD

* People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway.
* If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
* If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
* The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
* Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
* The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway.
* People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
* What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
* People really need help but may attack if you help them. Help people anyway.
* Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.

* You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.

--- Kent M. Keith (with additions by Mother Teresa?)

argh. math

i CANNOT decide on a math program for Kiryn. i am on the fence between Abeka 2 and math-u-see beta. the first will be following what we did last year (abeka 1) last year we bought the teachers manual and all the extras. i found everything but the workbook to be unnessasary. so to buy the new workbook $13.25. but a friend told me a friend used Abeka and her kid had to take remedial math in college....
the math-u-see program is awesome, but for the whole program i will shell out $85!!!
what do i do??? anyone have advice?

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Charlotte's web


that's what we are reading right now.

my printer is working overtime.

while i am reading

and this


kiryn's pig book

luccas pig book

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

down

i am feeling very down currently. i have avoided posting because i really am at a loss for words to explain. i did figure out something about myself. i need to keep busy to keep from feeling sad (if something sad is happening) . and without the extra happenings to keep me busy it can be overwhelming. i was called to set up a visit for grama this monday. i am not looking forward to the begining of this transistion. but , you never know what may happen-

so of course you never know. but right now i am feeling the grimness of the outcome for my sweetpea and my heart is surely aching.
i just keep reminding myself that:

romans 8:

26In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. 27And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God's will.

28And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,[a] who[b] have been called according to his purpose.

Monday, November 3, 2008

todays developments

well I was at court for 7 hours today for my friends little sister. the judge said it was one of the most horrible cases she had seen. it brought her to tears.
still, because cps was not recommending conservitoship she didnt give it. she moved the child to aunts 3 hours away (instead of placing with me or the two sisters here in town) everyone was thrown for loop.
then i get home and call my agency to find that someone in round rock was able to take MaMa and cupcake. and apparently since CPS is not removing children (due to the whole FDLS debacle ) we (along with every other foster parent in town) will likely be empty soon.
it's sad because it is not like children just stopped being abused. cps just stopped doing anything to protect them.
it is a sad depressing day.
liz