moving on

well CPS's reaction to me grounding Dancer (for a week and not from everything, just dance classes) was to have her moving to sister's house tomorrow. i will never see Dancer again. it is a major bummer, but i suppose it comes with the territory... they never explained that losing your best friend comes with the territory, but ...

anyhow- we do have some REALLY good news to share also-

I am PREGNANT!!! we should have an early Christmas present this year :)

yay!

down

sorry for the total slowdown in posts. i have no time and am starting to get depressed about this whole fostering thing-
firstly though i have good news (i hope). they did not find anything filed for Ruby, so we are preceeding with the adoption. soon our lawyer will have to check to make SURE there wasn't anything filed, but it looks good!
But then comes the not so good stuff...
we have a MAJOR blowup with Mama over weekend before this one that just ended. she did not come home till 3:30 am on tues AM when she was supposed to be home at 6 pm on sunday.my agency reported her as a runaway and i grounded her from her family visits this past weekend. she was furiouse and spent the next 24 hours scremaing at me calling me a miriade of nasty names. her caseworker has decided to move her, although they havn't done so yet.
then this week weekend Dancer started her ever other weekend visits with her sister (which is what we all agreed to in our huge meeting last week). the agreement was she would be home at 4pm in order for her to come to the evening service at my church(which she loves).so the first weekend out, all hell breaks loose. she calls me on sat to check in. i ask if she will be home at 4. she says actually she won't because she has something else she wants to do. i tell her that isn't ok and she needs to be home then i get her sister on the phone to tell her the same thing. her sister hangs up on me. later that evening Dancer leaves a voicemail on my phone complaining about my desision. then 4 pm roles around the next day, they arn't here. i call at 4:20 and sister says she won't be bringing her back till maybe 7. i admit it, i was furious. dancer hadn't been home since fri AM before school. this was rediculous. then when she brings her home Dancer is mad at me from stepping out of the car(even though she got exactly what she wanted). i tried to tell sister about Dancer consiquences (which involved her) but she refused to role down her car window and pulled off. the rest of the evening was horrible.
i can't get ahold of ANY case workers or casas. it makes me IRATE. in both situations if CPS gave a damm there wouldn't be a problem. they have no interest in making these insaine family visits work, and wonder why there is problems with them!!

updates

ok with Ruby's case- talked to her adoption worker this morning. she had not heard anything about if they actually filed or not, so still waiting on that one.
with Dancer-
had meeting with problamatic relative, worker and CASA. got some ground rules set up.

with mama and baby- having problems again with her wanting to not have to come home (basically) CPS has no limitations for her and she knows it. still waiting to see if she is coming home today....

blah!

my house is a disaster, as they are tiling downstairs, so we are trapped upstairs or outside. we cant use the kitchen and i am tired of fast food!!!

baptism

yesterday was phenomenal! our church had it's Baptism...in a pool..in the cold and wind and 115 people braved the cold to get baptised- Three of whom I got to Baptise!! Kiryn finally got to take the dunk, then it was Angel , Tristan's bio mom- i tell you what there is a testament to God's faithfulness- pray for your enemies people, they might become your friends and come to the Lord! and finally, Dance decided (last minute) that she wanted to make that commitment to Christ herself!! it was freaking awesome :)

2nd times a charm

i posted this whole post earlier, but it didn't work!

i got a call at 3pm today telling us that a great aunt and uncle of Ruby (sweetpea) have decided to hire a lawyer and intervene in the case to get custody. MY JAW HIT THE FLOOR. there is 9 days left in the mandatory 3 month waiting period following termination. 9 days from now we would have been home free... Ruby's GAL dosn't think they have grounds to intervene (seeing as they have never even MET her)..but we will see. bad part is they are foster parents .. in our city... apparently they are saying they didn't intervene before because they had kids in the home already (dont now?) and they thought she was going to paternal grama. But i don't know how that excuses never trying to meet her. i think they are selfish. i would never rip a baby away from its home at 15 months old. that is disgustingly selfish.
and of course the bomb gets dropped on friday, after our attorney's office closes. i can;t DO anything ..well that's not true, because i am lifting this up to the Lord, and he is mighty to save!!!


i life my eyes unto the hills, but where does my help come from? my help comes from the Lorn, maker of heaven and earth.

crawling out from under my rock!

ughhh. still have a blog stalker, still have major issues with relative of Dancer. we are having a meeting with casa today to hopefully resolve these issues (crossing fingers) i dont want to be a downer going into all these details, but it has been something everyday and at this point i am feeling attacked.
Mama and baby are doing great except for the lack of help from CPS to get her into a GED class or do nothing else for that matter. honestly, with a placement involving a specialized level teen and her 3 month old baby with special needs, we should be OVERWHELMED with people involved in this case. as it stands her worker is NO help and never calls back, neither of us has spoken to her lawyer, and there is no casa assigned!
Ruby is doing great and still not walking more than three steps because she gets so pleased with herself she sits down to clap each time, lol!we are waiting till after may 20th when the case can move from a foster placement to an adoptive placement. then i think i am going to piece her ears :)
Lucca is loving "school" (at home) she is trying to sound out and write words, and she is sometimes very close to right. it's funny how each kiddo is different. Kiryn is FINALLY reading somewhat. he is probably at a 2nd grade level now (he should be ending third grade) but i am still thrilled, because it is major improvement. He is doing most of his school at amys house, because he won't do ANYTHING for me with out major fits..
Tristan is still at Nyos and enjoying it. Sebastian is completely in underwear and usually dry all day, which is GREAT.
we are still trying to get a good bid for our bathroom remodel. I am considering busting out a sledgehammer and attending to the matter myself at this point.lol
and my most grumpy news is Gabe is going out of town from this sat till late on Easter Sunday. so he will miss Kiryns baptism (!) this Sunday and all the festivities for Easter Sunday. and to top off that his work told him yesterday he has to leave town one week after that for another 8-9 days... i think i might lose my mind without him for that long! in our whole marriage we have never been apart even close to that long. :(